[Part one]
What did you know about orgasm the first time you had one?
Nothing. I didn't even know the word, and I had no idea what was happening, other than that it felt really, really good. I thought I might have been peeing, except that peeing never felt that good no matter how badly I needed to.
I understood, either intuitively or because I'd heard something (I did know the word "semen"), that this was supposed to happen, rather than being an indication that something was seriously wrong.
Sex education in my high school wasn't what it could have been. For example, the pamphlet they gave us at school mentioned that the vagina was, on the average, about the size of a penis. There was no suggestion that there might be any significance to that, no hint that tab A might actually fit in slot B nor any reason to try it and see, and no mention of orgasm. It was presented as if it were a useful coincidence that allowed them to describe relative sizes more easily. Wa-a-ay too subtle for socially-impaired me.
How did you learn to make yourself orgasm?
When I first learned to masturbate, it didn't occur to me that I could use my hands. I was performing a stretching exercise (I'd seen it in a magazine) in which I lay on my stomach on the floor, arched my back, bent my legs, reached back and grabbed my ankles, then stretched my legs to arch my back even more. The result is to make a loop of my body, facing outward.
I'm not sure what this was meant to accomplish. I can't find any references to such an exercise now. I presume it was intended to increase flexibility, but as I have always been fairly flexible it was no strain for me.
Doubtless when women do this, they stay put, weight resting on their legs and butt. That's what the photo in the magazine showed. (I wish I could show you the photo, but then it must have been 35 years ago.) With my slightly different distribution of body weight, I found myself rocking, balanced on my hipbone. This put a delicious tension on my penis, the most amazing sensation I'd ever felt.
The first time orgasm approached, I had no idea what was happening. I lost my grip on my ankles, fell forward, and nearly brained myself on the floor. Where I lay for several long seconds, dazed by simultaneous pleasure and pain, reflexively humping the tile floor and coming in my pants.
Thank goodness I was home alone. I wouldn't have cared to explain to Mom what was going on.
In the next couple of years I spent a lot of time rolled into a rocking loop.
I found it useful to tie my wrists together with my bathrobe sash and loop it around my ankles, so when I lost my grip (as I often did) I wouldn't hurt myself. (I can't do it anymore. My body weight distribution has changed: I roll onto my face.) Which is to say, almost from the very beginning, I began to associate sex with bondage.
I don't remember when it occurred to me that I could just grab it, but eventually, I did. (But I still find myself looking for techniques where I don't have to.)
Do you hold back and delay your orgasm or go for it?
I always tell myself that this time I'm going to go for endurance. When the moment approaches, my will power vanishes.
The longest I ever made it last was 45 minutes, I think. (It does get more intense.) And that was by stopping for five minutes at a time: Although it was 45 minutes start to finish, I didn't spend all 45 minutes stimulating myself.
How long does your typical masturbation session last?
Five minutes. Yeah, I know. No will power at all.
Are you able to masturbate using either hand, and how does masturbating with your "wrong" hand feel compared to using your usual hand?
Left-handed masturbating feels like my left-handed handwriting looks--spastic.
I spent quite some time trying to learn to masturbate with my left hand. I ultimately decided that nobody would be impressed by this feat if I did manage it, so I stayed with what worked.
What do you do with the other hand? (new)
Usually it's on my right nipple. I like the feeling of "hugging myself". Also, my nipples are sensitive, and touching one "amplifies" the sensation of touching anything else. I often wish I had three hands.
Sometimes I stick a finger up my ass. I have to almost tie myself in a knot to do that; I can't get out of that position quickly; and there's no way I can pretend I’m doing anything other than what I'm doing. I must look like I'm trying to turn myself inside out.
Do you have any unusual masturbation habits?
Define unusual.
I routinely taste my pre-ejaculate (cowper's gland fluid). Something about the taste really turns me on. And the longer I last, the more of this fluid I produce. Yum. Unfortunately, it turns me on so much that it makes it more difficult to delay climax.
Have you ever tasted your own semen?
Yes. Indirectly, by kissing my partner immediately after oral sex--and directly, by, well, there's no graceful way to say (or do) this; by jacking off into my hand and then swallowing it. It took me a long time to work up the nerve to do that, but once I had, it was no big deal. There is seldom any reason to, really, but I'm not afraid or repelled.
I love the taste of my pre-come. Semen, itself, I can take or leave.
If I could fellate myself, I would swallow without hesitation. But then, if I could fellate myself, I'd never leave the house. (See auto-fellatio.)
What is your ultimate, no-holds-barred, even-if-you-would-never-do-it-in-real-life fantasy?
*Blushing furiously as I type*
Forced masturbation. Being stimulated in a situation and / or by a person not of my choosing. For example, under restraint, in a public or semi-public place. Or being forced to masturbate myself in the presence of a witness (or audience).
God. I never realized that until I encountered this question and thought about it. I can hardly believe I'm saying it.
That's a rape fantasy, isn't it? Oh, God. Is it hot in here...?
Do you think you could be masturbated to orgasm by another person against your will?
Well... Yeah. It might depend on the circumstances, but yeah.
I find it impossible to resist orgasm when my partner in crime has decided it's time to make me have one. She and I both know where my sensitive spots are. And we both know how sensitive they are. If someone who knew those spots (or could discover them) was determined to make me come, and I was unable to fend her off or simply leave, then yes, I think she could make me come whether I wanted to or not. (I don't think another man could do it, but I'm pretty sure a woman could.)
That's a powerful fantasy.
LATER: Respondents to Sex News Daily confirm that, yes, it is quite possible. Women, and men, have been known to have orgasms against their will in the course of being assaulted or raped, and it is by all reports a traumatic experience which I do not mean to make light of. They feel betrayed by their bodies' response, which has little or nothing to do with what they wanted.
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