Oh, yeah, do that more. :)
Does she enjoy doing this? Sometimes I get the idea she doesn't. I'm not a big fan of the popular joke about why brides smile (they know they never have to give another blow job): If she doesn't enjoy it, I don't want to ask it of her.
But in the last twenty years or so the humble blow job has gone from being something that lives only in myth, legend, and what used to be called "stag films" to one of the Main Courses of lovemaking.
It isn't how I prefer to come as a regular thing, but I certainly do enjoy the attention (and would like to enjoy it a little more often *ahem*). By all means, keep it in the repertoire, if not necessarily as the Big Finish, as a stop along the way. (Although, accidents happen, of course, and sometimes I just can't contain myself...)
She can pretty much count on never again being asked to suck me while I'm driving. I mean, it certainly did liven up that drive to Charleston, but what was I thinking?
"Sixty-nine" is probably not the best direction from which to approach my penis. The most sensitive part of me is the underside of the coronal ridge: To reach it to best advantage, she should be between my legs.
However, all oral contact feels good.
Deep oral penetration is not necessary. The head of my penis is really all that needs to be in her mouth. The trick is to grab the shaft with your hands: It has relatively few nerve endings, it'll feel like the whole thing is in your mouth. Wrap your lips around the ridge and turn your head to the left and right. I will instinctively try to thrust in further, but that's not a reaction I can control.
Many women complain that men will grab their head and force himself down her throat, in essesnce fucking her face. I agree that's rude, but sometimes instinct wins out over our common sense. And sometimes I just don't know what to do with my hands.
The same applies to complaints that men pump too hard once we're in her mouth. I know, we're supposed to hold still and let her do all the moving, for her own comfort. This is like asking us to keep our eyes open when we sneeze. It's not the way our instincts work.
Not that so-called "deep throating" isn't appealing, but the shape of the mouth and throat makes it something not attempted casually. It is, of course, possible, and far be it from me to discourage her from trying it. There are two obstacles: The right-angle at the back of your mouth (answer: throw your head back as far as you can, to straighten the bend), and the gag reflex (answers: [a] with time, practice, and relaxation, the reflex can be overcome; [b] "the "trick" to not "gagging" is to not interrupt the reflex", according to sexuality.org's Advanced Fellatio Techniques.)
What, technically, is happening is that your body is trying to swallow, and a finger, penis, or banana doesn't cooperate. Some people can learn to just resist/ignore the reflex, but even better is to turn it into a real swallow. I believe (don't try it at home) that's how sword swallowers do it. Certainly it's how "deep throat" technique people do it. It's really just that simple. When you would have felt like gagging, you swallow. I, personally, have confirmed this with a banana, and a finger.
Uh... right. And breathe through your nose. :)
Violet Blue offers another method in her Ultimate Guide to Fellatio: "The best position is lying on your back, with your head tilted back and slightly off the edge of a bed or couch. Time your up and down strokes with each breath. Inhale as you draw him in, exhale as you draw him out."
Almost every site that mentions fellatio raises the question of whether to swallow. She's never made an issue of it. When I warn her that I'm about to come, she speeds up, takes me deeper, and gulps me down as if she's dying of thirst and I'm the only water for miles.
Thank you, my love.
Surprisingly, I found that eight times out of 10, Yalies agree with me on this point. Especially males. When asked, most replied that this question should not even be addressed. It was a non-issue. Swallowing, they all said, is clearly where it's at.
I agree. If she's not going to swallow it, then I'd rather not come in her mouth at all. Oddly, there still appears to be a psychological "catch" that won't let me come in her mouth until she's indicated that she wants me to.
Even though I know how little fluid I produce, it feels like she's sucking me dry. It's a unique experience, not like orgasm induced any other way.
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